Your attachment style emerges from wounded subconscious conditioning-- a misperception of self, that is not permanent – it can be changed through subconscious reprogramming thanks to neuroplasticity.

Traditional attachment theory-- the work of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth. I learned how each insecure attachment style forms, how insecure patterns show up in adulthood, in relationships, as well as the quality of life consequences of insecure attachment throughout the lifespan.

Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory (IAT) - which incorporates elements of CBT, DBT, hypnosis & NLP, somatic emotional processing, needs literacy, Byron Katie's work, & the relationship work of Susan Johnson. IAT provides a set of tools that address healing every expression of insecure attachment at its roots: in the subconscious mind. 

Shadow work - as a tool for peering into our projections in order to release resentment and keep people off pedestals

It turns out that the confusing decisions I made and the types of company that I kept in my early life were not due to my being an inherently bad or morally bankrupt young person – they were an effect of the messaging I had internalized as the family scapegoat. 

I wasn’t just reactive or overthinking, I was hypervigilant – which is an adaptive survival strategy that a person develops due to chronic unpredictability or unsafety in their relationships or circumstances during sensitive periods of life. 

I learned that no amount of daily āsana practice was enough to heal me. No profound insights or glimpses of transcendence or cathartic emotional release would ever be able to resolve trauma that affected me. If you don’t have the right tools to address your patterning where it exists– in the subconscious and unconscious mind, emotional regulation will always be temporary and your wounded programming will continue to run your life and dictate your choices. 

I learned that the depth and quality of my connections with others is directly proportional to how authentic and vulnerable I am willing to be-- even though expressing vulnerability was so scary, it got easier.

I learned that it’s normal and acceptable to have needs and limits, and that communicating these things authentically actually keeps me safer than behaving like I don’t have them in an effort to make other people happy or to avoid conflict or abandonment. 

Most important of all, I learned how to apply the tools of Integrated Attachment Theory to heal my own insecure attachment patterns, to re-parent myself and to finally feel safe taking up space in the world and expressing my gifts. I believe every single person on this planet has innate gifts that this world needs, and that if you've been conditioned to minimize yourself or to dim your light because of the family you were born in, or the culture you were raised in, or the relationships you're trapped in, or the tempest that you've been through in your life... I'm here to show you that deep healing and a life better than you can probably even imagine right now is absolutely possible for you.